After the passion of the first moments, the departure of children, life events… it is sometimes difficult to reinvent your couple. Sometimes conjugal sexuality slows down with the passing years ... Sometimes the routine, the arguments, the misunderstandings raise doubts.

With the years, desire can be disturbed and questions can take place. Here are some tips to revive intimacy, alone or with your partner.

1. Communicate 
Communication and dialogue are essential to know each other better and to be able to guide each other. This will also allow you to avoid non-dits. Be curious and listen to your partner. Don’t forget to express your needs and limitations, it will allow you to better let go and feel safe.

2. Make appointments
It may seem «not sexy» but it is essential to set moments to find yourself together. Blocking them on the agenda will allow you to think about them, prepare yourself mentally, emotionally and physically. In addition, the specialists are unanimous: the less sex you have, the less intimate moments, the less you want!

3. Boost your erotic imagination
Erotic readings, podcasts but also films and series can open the erotic imagination, placing the intimate or sexual aspect at the center of everyday life. It can give ideas and arouse desires. Listen to: «No retirement for sex» or «Voxxx» and «Coxxx», see if you like it and hang on!

4. Play
Playing with your 5 senses, using accessories, changing small elements will allow you to vary, have fun, break the routine and reinvent intimacy.
The use of oil, lubricant or sex toys can make it possible to rediscover erogenous zones and be in the game.

After 50 years, one often has a smaller workload, more experience with sometimes less prohibitions and prejudices, a better knowledge of one’s body, children usually left home. All this leaves more space for you and your partner to fantasize and open up more opportunities for private moments with you or your partner. If they are approached positively and pleasantly they will allow you to enjoy your new freedom!

A consultation can sensitize you and allow you to equip yourself to become an actor or actress of your intimacy. Living a conjugality and fulfilling sexuality is possible. In a dynamic and participatory way, I help men and women better understand their emotional, relational and sexual difficulties and find solutions to improve and make sense of sexuality. I approach, without taboo and vulgarity, the subjects related to conjugal and/or sexual intimacy.

I see you in Ecaussinnes, Houdeng and Waterloo.

Elisabeth Simon